How to Turn Your Life Around When It Feels Like Everything Sucks

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It’s hard to keep your chin up when you feel like the world is coming down around you. Whether there’s something really serious happening in your life or you’re just in a funk, we all know what it’s like to feel as if we have a dark cloud is hanging over our heads.

It’s natural to want to wallow in your mood — but lingering there too long can lead to other issues. Left unchecked, prolonged sadness can lead to depression, withdrawal, or even thoughts of suicide.

When it starts to feel like everything sucks, it’s time to take steps — even tiny ones — to turn your life around. It’s simple, but it often isn’t easy…

Acknowledge Your Feelings

You may want to just stick your head in the sand and pretend everything is fine, but ignoring the way you feel isn’t going to make things any better. If you want to turn around your mood, you need to acknowledge it in the first place.

Avoiding negative feelings helps us feel better in the short-term, but they’ll just continue to fester under the surface. Fail to address them, and they will come back with a vengeance. You’ll find yourself exploding or completely breaking down — leaving yourself and those around you feeling befuddled by your outburst.

Instead of suppressing your emotions, go someplace where you can be alone and let them all pour out. Give yourself permission to be angry, frustrated, sad, or enraged. Experience these feelings to their fullest.

Scream, cry, or beat the shit out of a pillow if you need to.

Then, spend hours journaling until you’ve exhausted yourself. Let it all out. Only after you’ve gone through the emotions can you step back with a clear head and really see the deeper issues.

Give Up the Victim Role

You may not always have the power to control what’s happening around you, but you can control how you react to it.

Stop thinking about how life happens to you, and, instead, think about how it happens for you.

Is there any way you can control the situation? If not, how can you reframe it? Are there any life lessons you can take from the experience? How can you use them to grow and become a better person?

Decide If It’s Really Your Problem

Is the thing that’s bothering you is truly worthy of the emotions it’s creating? Is it possible that you’re overthinking or over-reacting?

If you’ve taken to heart a situation that doesn’t actually have a direct impact on your life, you’re not alone! We must remember we weren’t meant to carry the world’s problems on our shoulders. Trying to do so only leaves us feeling overwhelmed and depressed.

Take an objective look at the problem and decide if it’s really yours. If it’s not, then let it go.

Refuse to Settle

If you’re in a situation that’s making you feel depressed, you DON’T have to stay there!

Will making the change be scary? Absolutely! In fact, it might be the hardest thing you’ve ever done. But, you do have the power to turn your life around. Whether it takes a few days, a few years, or even decades, it all starts with taking action — one day at a time.

Don’t accept a lifetime of dealing with a situation that’s making you unhappy. Refuse to settle and you’ll be surprised at how your life starts to change. Believe there’s an answer out there, and, eventually, it will come for you.

Trust in Yourself

Shut down that annoying voice in your head that tries to tell you life is over, things will never get better, or this is just how things go for you.

This constant stream of negative inner dialogue is your worst enemy. Recognize it for what it is and stop the cycle.

Once you’ve silenced the negative voice in your head, enjoy the peace and quiet. This creates space for a new voice to emerge. Soon, you’ll be able to hear the one that was quietly whispering all along, trying to tell you that you’re stronger than you think.

Create an Action Plan to Turn Your Life Around

Ask yourself what is causing your pain — and you would do if you knew you couldn’t fail.

Sometimes, the answers are painfully obvious. Other times, it can take weeks, months, or even years of soul-searching before you start to see the light. Life-shifting changes rarely happen overnight.

Brainstorm ideas until you come up with a plan to turn your life around. Write it down and beak it into baby steps.

Sometimes just going through this process is enough to make you feel better. If you can, inch yourself forward by taking that very first baby step.

Embrace your power and start making things happen. This is the best way to start climbing your way out of your funk and turn your life around for good.

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Originally published at on May 15, 2020.

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